I've been surfing the web a bit and have found some interesting and funny things about what my good friend Katie likes to call 'flirtexting'. It seems to be all the rage with anyone who has a cell phone and knows a member of the opposite sex. Not only are there numerous websites about the subject, but there's even a new book 'Flirtexting- How to text your way into his heart' and a very funny video: Texting Your Way To Love - YourTango adressing the subject.
Flirting via Text has become a new way of life for so many folks. It's the new kind of relationship involving very little responsibility while taking a fair amount of 'safe' risk. This article "Text it to me Dirty Baby"explains all the great things one can do with texting...the risk taking, the short sweet messages that can be sent to let someone know you're thinking about them. It's truly a great way of involving and exercising one's imagination, you can be anything you want to be over a simple little text... coi, sassy, and clever everything's possible! Flirtexting is the new form of mental foreplay, assuming that you actually get to be with each other.
Flirting via Text has become a new way of life for so many folks. It's the new kind of relationship involving very little responsibility while taking a fair amount of 'safe' risk. This article "Text it to me Dirty Baby"explains all the great things one can do with texting...the risk taking, the short sweet messages that can be sent to let someone know you're thinking about them. It's truly a great way of involving and exercising one's imagination, you can be anything you want to be over a simple little text... coi, sassy, and clever everything's possible! Flirtexting is the new form of mental foreplay, assuming that you actually get to be with each other.
It can be enormous amounts of fun, and the anticipation of getting a concise message that holds a world of innuendo is enough to excite even the most sexually conservative. In fact it becomes an addiction to adrenaline...someone you think about is thinking about you! One becomes trained by the sound of their phone's message alert, 'ding', to have an instant rush of excitement with each text. The simple thought that the 'ding' might just be that special someone sending you a sweet little crumb to chew on....then you could sometimes spend hours figuring out the perfect piece of decadence to send back. It's a vicious and yet very fun cycle that occupies our minds and even our bodies, as we are taken hostage by our cellular devices for days with the possibilities they hold.
It's not until you wake up one morning and realize the entire relationship you're having with someone is based entirely on flirtexting that you start to realize this addiction. And then trying to pry yourself away from it feels something like a heroin detox...or at least that what I think it would feel like if i knew what that actually felt like...Why pry yourself away? Because you realize the whole relationship with this person is not based on reality.
As you can probably tell, I'm speaking from experience and I'm in the aftermath of it all right now...I am a flirtextaholic...and I have to say, holding myself back from flirtexting is one of the most unbelievably difficult things I have had to do. It's so easy and so satisfying that it seems so harmless...and it usually is in most situations! It can be so amazing! But I found myself caught up in a messy web, falling for someone via flirtexting, someone who was/is 'unavailable' and realized that this situation was becoming...not so good.
When I fall for someone, everyone else becomes so unexciting and seemingly not worth my time...and I found I was closing off to those other possibilities due to this flirtexting relationship that wasn't going anywhere...nor could it go anywhere....there was no reward at the end of the day. So I had to cut myself off. Cut him off. Stop the addiction. Cold Turkey. And though I still want to cave in every day...and to just write one little thing...to let him know I'm still thinking of him...or that I haven't lost all those feelings...I won't let myself...I'm stronger than that right?! I have to believe that's true because I, just like so many other wonderful women, deserve something more than a simple little phone relationship.
Flirtexting has become the new way of someone being into you but just not That into you....and therefore void of all responsibilities of a real relationship. So my friends, I will conclude with saying become a flirtextaholic...it has the potential to be a beautiful, sexy thing...just be aware, be very aware!
Also beware the dangers of texting because if you find yourself texting too much...this could happen to you ;) "9 humiliating ways cell phones injure people"
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